#MeToo and JFC I Can’t Even With You Dudes

Today we tweeted about Liam Neeson’s claim that #MeToo has started a witch hunt – that witch hunts have historically targeted at women and it seems absurd that men are expressing how scary it is that they think they’re the target of one. Mostly, the responses we got were supportive, but of course, OF COURSE, we had a few tweets from men arguing that witch hunts are also/just as bad for men.

Now, I’m not trying to shame any individual tweeters, because I’d hate to start a witch hunt (lol see what I did there?) but honestly, men. I can’t even with you.

Okay, let me give you the benefit of the doubt. You’re concerned, like Liam Neeson, that casual contact like touching someone’s knee is going to lead to a man losing his job.  Leaving aside the fact that why the F would you be touching her knee in any professional situation without her consent, I get that you have concerns.  Let me try to take a deep breath here and womansplain some shit.

I’ve been sexual harassed, sexually assaulted, and raped.  Just to put that out there right now. Hashtag Me. Fucking. Too. I want you to take a god damned SEAT before you come at me with your concerns that #MeToo is a witch hunt out to get innocent men or whatever you’re complaining about.

So before you say a single word (“Well, actually…” “The point is…” “Not all men…” or anything remotely resembling these), be sure you have followed these shouldn’t-be-so-damned-difficult steps.

  1. Express to women, both as a collective and individually, that you are willing to listen and believe them if they want to talk.  Before you @ me with “The important thing to remember…” you better make sure you’ve taken a second to tell me you’ll listen to me and believe what I say about my experiences.
  2. Actually listen.  Don’t just wait for me to finish talking so you can say your bit.
  3. Check your privilege.  Don’t say something that changes the narrative to make men the victim.  Understand and acknowledge that as a man, you’re speaking from a position that is, on balance, more privileged.
  4. Ask questions, instead of explaining back to women.  Instead of saying, “Well actually, men get accused of harassment when they didn’t mean anything,” try, “What are your thoughts about false accusations?”  Then listen.  See Step 2.
  5. Ask the most important question of all: “How can I help?”  And try your damnedest to do what women ask.

Have you followed all five steps? Okay, now you can express a concern!  Trust me, I agree that there are gradients of inappropriate behavior and not all of them should lead to a man losing his job.  I agree that men experience harassment and assault too, and I want to talk about it and listen to your experience.  I AGREE that #NotAllMen are creeps! But instead of just trying to “#MeToo” my “#MeToo,” try listening and learning something.  Otherwise I AM going to start Tweetshaming you.

Women are finally feeling empowered to talk about their horrific experiences.  Don’t undermine that empowerment by “presenting the other side” unless you’re DAMNED sure that you’ve followed all five of the Bitches’ Easy Steps.

We’re even willing to provide graduation certificates. Maybe Obama will speak at our commencement 😉



#MeToo with @sbmitche

A big thank you to Sara Mitchell ( @sbmitche ) for chatting with us about sexual harassment, assault, and the #MeToo hashtag that went around Twitter last week.


IR Bitch:      Hi, Sara! Thanks for joining us. We really liked your comments on our #MeToo post. What do you think about #MeToo generally?

Sara Mitchell: On the positive side, I like how it raises awareness of women’s experiences with sexual assault and sexual harassment and shows how widespread these experiences are for women.  On the negative side, though, I found it problematic to equate sexual assault and sexual harassment in the copy and paste statement. There is a distribution of assault/harassment experiences and the general statement dilutes that.  I have worked with students and colleagues who experienced sexual assault and rape and those issues have been extremely challenging for me to handle as a female mentor.

IRB: I definitely agree. Harassment and assault aren’t the same. I also think it’s problematic to make a spectacle out of harassment or assault. Hearing people’s stories is good for context, but also can feel kind of voyeuristic, I guess? And women who don’t feel comfortable sharing (either they’re shy, or maybe their experience is so personal and traumatic that they don’t want to “go public”) could feel strangely left out, as odd as that seems

SM: Yes I agree. It puts pressure on women who have experienced awful things to share them, even though that could be a traumatic experience.

Americanist Bitch: I would tend to agree with your statement about hard it is to confront these issues, even for women. For us Bitches, one of us has been assaulted, while the other has been harassed. It was tough conversation between us- both that the assaulted Bitch felt like she had to tell her story, and for the other Bitch who had trouble coming up with what to say.

SM: I didn’t post anything because I feel like my experiences, while unpleasant on the harassment side, do not compare with the experiences of my students and friends who have been raped/assaulted. I was not comfortable putting myself in the same category.
I have seen how rape destroys women’s lives and felt powerless to help.

AB: Yes, I get that. There are situations where men just need to be more aware/cognizant of sexism – many times harassment or sexism in the workplace can be corrected with some education – awareness that they’re creating a sexist or unwelcoming environment Assault and rape require a totally different “fix”

SM:  Yes. At the same time, the harassment end of the spectrum is something we can address more easily in academia.

IRB: So what about the critique that #MeToo is still keeping the focus of the conversation on the women who experience harassment or assault, and not on the men who do it? Women “get harassed” or women “are raped.” Passive voice, as though it’s just happening.

SM: Yes we need to shift the conversation to the assaulters/harassers. But the first step is education which does require victims to have voice. Because several women in my department published research on gender issues in academia and engaged in mentoring programs, this helped convince some of my male colleagues to become more active allies.

AB: How did that affect tenure and promotion discussions? Generally, “gender issues” are not a prestigious field to research in political science.

SM: Most women working on the issues were already tenured, but I am fortunate to work in a place that values research on gender/race/ethnicity/etc.

IRB: our last question is – what strategies would you offer young, untenured women in the discipline to navigate a world where #MeToo is still needed, where women still aren’t believed? What can WE do personally?

SM: First, I would keep a record of anything that happens in an academic setting that constitutes harassment or assault (including dates/places/events). Second, reach out to your department chair, dean, or ombudsman office if something happens. Don’t just let harassment continue unchecked. Third, find tenured allies in your department or other departments on campus that can serve as your advocates. Finally, it is important to pay it forward once you are tenured, help junior women navigate these difficult issues.

AB: That last step is one of the most important ones! Well, thanks so much for contributing this conversation. We could probably go on for hours, but at least we have a good place to start 🙂


Academic Council or 1st Grader?

Quotes from my 1st Grader. And from people on Academic Council. Anybody’s guess which is which.

“I can’t even read that.”

“You’re not the boss of me.”

“That’s for a totally different class.”

“She doesn’t count.”

“Guys, there’s a really big problem here.”

“Where is my folder?”

“It’s so long from now, do we really have to worry about this today?”

*General Whining and Crying*

“How do I make it show up on the screen?”

“I still can’t find my folder.”

“Thank you!”

“See you next time!”



The Academic Hierarchy: Observations from #MPSA17

I always love Chicago and MPSA, and this year’s conference was fantastic. I loved seeing friends from grad school, friends from former jobs, coauthors, friends of friends. Oh, and the panels and learning, too (can’t forget that part).  The conference was fantastic this year, and MUCH gratitude to the program/section chairs, and to all of the staff that worked hard to make it so great!

One thing that was particularly noticeable to me this year was the academic hierarchy. In typical Poli Sci Bitches fashion, here is our list of 3 Examples of Academic Hierarchy, as observed at MPSA.

  1. At my panel. My panel was sort of a unique hodge-podge, as many of them are. I can’t even imagine the challenge of trying to find 3-5 papers that are thematically similar, especially in some of the more obscure sub-sub-subfields.  So, perhaps no surprise: my paper was almost in direct contradiction with another paper in the panel.  Being confident in my work, I presented my contradictory finding, and during the Q&A, the author of the other paper (who was significantly older and more tenured than I am) started talking about some research design suggestions that I know are simply inaccurate. But, being the less tenured one, I felt less confident speaking up, or throwing shade.  Strike One for Academic Underlings.
  2. At the bar.  Everyone knows the look. It’s the checking-out-of-the-name-tag. Someone approaches, and before you’ve even had a chance to say hello, they’re looking for your affiliation on your badge.  If it isn’t good enough, they’ll probably take less of their time talking to you.  But it was especially interesting this year, because half of these people follow The Bitches on Twitter! Little did you know, Mr. CHYMPS, that you just liked my post a few hours ago 🙂  Honestly, almost everyone at the conference was polite and friendly and did NOT Name Badge Shame me.  Even so, for those of us at smaller or less research intensive institutions, it’s Strike Two for Academic Underlings.
  3. With a vagina.  This year was a great year for women at MPSA, in my opinion. I was so pleased to see how active Women Also Know Stuff was on Twitter and at the conference in general.  I didn’t personally observe a single Manel.  But, we still have a long way to go.  “Women’s” subfields are still less valued. There are still plenty of panels with only ONE woman. And there’s still the inevitable possibility of getting hit on during a work event.  Strike Three for Academic Underlings. We have come a long way, but we can do better.